Hey,
I heard an idea from Mark Manson that I could not stop thinking about.
Fault and responsibility are not the same thing.
We use these words as if they mean the same thing.
They do not.
And confusing them is ruining people's lives.
The Difference That Changes Everything
Fault is about the past.
Responsibility is about the present.
Fault asks: Who caused this?
Responsibility asks: What am I going to do about it?
You can have zero fault and full responsibility at the same time.
Let me explain.
Your parents raised you in a way that damaged your confidence.
Not your fault.
But building that confidence now? That is your responsibility.
You trusted someone and they betrayed you.
Not your fault.
But healing from it? That is your responsibility.
You were not taught how to manage money when you were young.
Not your fault.
But learning it now? That is your responsibility.
You got sick. You got fired. You got rejected. The economy crashed. The relationship ended.
None of that may be your fault.
But what happens next is entirely your responsibility.
This is not motivational fluff.
This is the hardest truth I know.
Why People Hate This Idea
Because it feels unfair.
And it is.
Why should you be responsible for fixing something you did not break?
Why should you carry the weight of someone else's mistake?
Why should you work harder just because life handed you a worse starting point?
I do not have a good answer.
Life is unfair.
Some people start ahead. Some people start behind.
Some people get lucky breaks. Some people get broken.
That is not your fault.
But here is what I know.
Waiting for an apology will not fix your life.
Waiting for someone to acknowledge your pain will not move you forward.
Waiting for the world to become fair will leave you waiting forever.
The only person who can change your situation is you.
Even when you did not cause it.
Especially when you did not cause it.
The Trap of Being Right
You can spend years proving that you were wronged.
You can build an airtight case.
You can be completely, undeniably right.
And still be stuck in the same place.
Being right does not pay your bills.
Being right does not heal your wounds.
Being right does not move you one step closer to where you want to be.
I have met people who were right about everything.
Right about how their parents failed them.
Right about how the system is broken.
Right about how they deserved better.
And they are still stuck.
I have also met people who had every reason to blame the world.
And they chose to move anyway.
They did not wait for permission.
They did not wait for fairness.
They just started.
Guess which group actually changed their lives?
The Part That Gets Missed
Here is where most people get it wrong.
They think responsibility means controlling the outcome.
It does not.
You are responsible for taking action.
You are not responsible for what happens after.
You can study harder than anyone and still fail the exam.
You can give a relationship everything and still watch it end.
You can build a business with your whole heart and still see it collapse.
You can make every right decision and still get the wrong result.
That is life.
The outcome is never fully in your hands.
But the action is.
The attitude is.
The response is.
Your responsibility is not to win.
Your responsibility is to play fully, with everything you have, regardless of the result.
A Question For You
What are you carrying right now that is not your fault but still needs your attention?
What are you waiting for someone else to fix?
What would change if you stopped asking "why me" and started asking "what now"?
I am not saying forget the pain.
I am not saying pretend it did not happen.
I am saying the pain does not disqualify you from action.
You can be hurt and still move.
You can be angry and still build.
You can be exhausted and still take one step forward.
That is what responsibility looks like.
Not denying the wound.
Walking forward with it.
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Osama (OLS)
P.S. — It is not your fault. But it is your move.
